How do you know when you love a man as a man or as a friend?

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Originally Posted by FairyCrystal

Yes, you got that one right, haha. Indeed it was an important step for me, as it was what I needed to experience. I had resistance concerning a relationship and couldn't think of the added value of one anymore.

It is a bit of a weird one. We're supposed to get to where we don't need it anymore, and in general that's where I am, but if that was enough and utterly fulfilling, no one would get involved anymore? So there has to be something extra, added value, for people want to get involved. Yet if you start longing for that, you have to be able to give it to yourself?
Isn't that a weird kind of loop?
I guess the healthy line is being able to be happy on your own, lead a fulfilling life, not needing someone else for that. So it is really just the icing on the cake.
I want that icing! LOL. But I know I still have little bits of resistance to work through still.

It is a weird kind of loop. But I think the difference is a need vs want.
Choosing it because you want it, not because you need it. ...*winks at LB*

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Originally Posted by Olivia13

It is a weird kind of loop. But I think the difference is a need vs want.
Choosing it because you want it, not because you need it. ...*winks at LB*

Correction^

"Want" isn't the right word either, open is. Not wanting or needing it, but being open to it. Not being affected by it either way (if you have it or not).