How to keep the power and my dignity with a bully

[Guff779]

think some of you may have read some struggles in past threads with a relative who for years belittled, put me down, ostracised, manipulate others, bully.

There are some community members, who do not know me and make ignorant comments and may make fun of me, belittle, sarcasm.

I have stopped being there and blocked people for years. With my academics and self e potential, I've proved them wrong.

They do wish to ruin my dignity and make me a scapegoat. Mess me around saying "get him a women".

Also that bully.

How to keep and not lose power:

-Never be there
-Keep my distance
-Be away
-Keep well away

-Do not communicate with them
-Do not be in there connections, links, WhatsApp, groups

-Dont think
-Dont care
-Ignore
-Do not acknowledge them

-Be calm
-Be silent

-Block their social media
-Block them completely

-Do not tell them anything
-Silence, calm

-Dont get involved
-Limit contact with them

Anything else to add?

[Irisa]

Choose you...only you.

You don´t need to prove anything to anyone...not even to yourself.

What if this will go on and on and on and on until finally you choose you..

You say ´don´t think´, but you seem to be very much in your head.

It´s not them who need to give you some space and a better time and love. Yes, of course, that would be great. But it not seems to be happening. You need to give yourself exactly that, that you maybe wish to get from the ones around you.

The power is inside of you...not in the head, but in the heart.

The wall you´re building around you...it not only keeps the others at a distance, but it might make it harder to get through to your own heart as well after some time.

[Guff779]

Originally Posted by Irisa

Choose you...only you.

You don´t need to prove anything to anyone...not even to yourself.

What if this will go on and on and on and on until finally you choose you..

You say ´don´t think´, but you seem to be very much in your head.

It´s not them who need to give you some space and a better time and love. Yes, of course, that would be great. But it not seems to be happening. You need to give yourself exactly that, that you maybe wish to get from the ones around you.

The power is inside of you...not in the head, but in the heart.

The wall you´re building around you...it not only keeps the others at a distance, but it might make it harder to get through to your own heart as well after some time.

Thank you for your suggestions.