My personal life lesson in coming here

[davidsun]

I very much appreciate your insights which are in keeping with your screen-name 'naturesflow'. As always, well said.

There's always the issue (one's way of dealing with it depends on one's personal/intuitive interpretation of the 'signals' being sent, I think) of whether and how much to take and treat a person exactly as he or she presents himself or as one thinks has the best potential, if any, to really be contributory in signficant measure.

Please know that your 'way' in such regard is recognized and appreciated.

Some ways of listening and speaking 'work' better than others in terms of stimulating and/or facilitating functional situational process by some, but there's no single 'best' way IMO. Speaking about a person's process within his or hearing range may also serve, though of course it also may not in relation to any given personal situation. And, in some cases, depending on the motivations/goals/purposes or lack thereof of the communicatee (on either 'side' of a conversation), the possibility/probability of stimulating and facilitating further 'process' may be so minimal as to not warrant further listening and speaking engagement, even of a tangential kind. As different as they clearly are, I nevertheless think that the 'decisions' (interpretations and action/inaction choices) of all of the participants in this thread are quite respectable therefor, my own included.

[naturesflow]

I think you bring up a wonderful point davidsun..(that name suits you) Signals and personal intuitive interpretation. My intuition listened in that moment to delete my post and it seems you were there to listen to it in some form anyway at the same time. (I read this after I had deleted it)

In the natural flow and order of all beings being themselves as they are, and can be in each moment of life, it all matters and all counts in the greater scheme of life and people relating and connecting. So best to listen to oneself where they are and what they need to share and be in all that and be mindful of what their own personal issues may entwine in the mix..

So we can only choose the way in which we are open to flow with and deepen, our understanding of others and their process all the same and bring an aspect of mindfulness to build deeper awareness in that way, in the relating.

I kind of look at it as a transfer awareness. You know how you are showing your own experience and then come periods of listening to others more mindful of their own process where it needs to be and stay for now. So in that awareness in "ones" own process, one can learn to just listen and not need to be showing the other, but become the deeper conversation that can become for them that they see.

In that way there is no "need" for the other to enter into anything they are not ready for. But the offering of awareness that you validate them right where they are.

Thankyou for what appears to be appreciation and recognition for ALL..myself included.. I do feel appreciated and recognized from within myself most naturally, which kind of makes me null and void in need of that externally. If it flows in, it is always nice to hear and feel as a gesture of awareness of others in their sharing.

For me the gift of being myself and sharing myself is enough. The rest is an added shared space that is always nice from others, without needing it, if that makes sense to you.

[davidsun]

“We are each other's harvest; we are each other's business; we are each other's magnitude and bond.”
― Gwendolyn Brooks