Dating and relationships these days...

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I'm old school now too, it weeds out alot of FWB situationships and it weeds out alot of men.


I'm seriously considering going back to buildung my platonic style friendships like I did with men in my early 20s.


There are plenty of men who are also wanting emotional connections and long term commitments with someone, I have had a habit of being attracted to emotionally unavailable men and that is all I tended to see due to my attachment style however I am healing this inner stuff and becoming attracted to emotionally intelligent, secure in themselves and available men.


As I do the inner trauma healing, I notice that the quality of people who I am attracted to has started to match to more healthy and honest connections in general.

Even if many of these connections do not go the distance, it feels nice to have connected in a kinder and more respectful way and each time I am offered an opportunity to gauge how far I have grown through the perspective.

I'm also doing my bit to change the culture in my own tiny way by conducting myself with self respect, kindness and authenticity.


It reminds me of how narcisim in society will never go away so long as there are broken down co dependants to keep feeding narcissistic culture... propping up false selves.